Let the message of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom through psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. —Colossians 3:16-17
Do you think about what you say? Have you ever truly thought about every word that comes out of your mouth throughout the day? I mean like… really think, even when you’re saying uplifting and positive words? Are you saying them with the right intentions? What about careless comments, rude remarks, and sarcastic smirks… what do they really communicate to those closest to you?
Your words have the potential of bringing life or death to the heart of another. Your words, along with underlying attitudes, will either build others up or tear them down, strengthen them in the Lord or weaken their faith.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits. —Proverbs 18:21
When I was finally old enough to get a facebook, and when I say finally I mean.. my mom made me wait for what seemed like forever to hop onto the trend. I noticed that my peers and even the adults I am friends with seem to see nothing wrong with voicing their intimate and private feelings on this public platform.
Social media has become an outlet for our innermost emotions and most sacred feelings, a place to “vent” in frustration or anger, or a soapbox to impulsively proclaim every minute detail of our daily lives.
WHY DO WE FEEL THE NEED TO DO THIS?
Instead, we should be directing our hearts toward God in prayer, all too often we run to our favorite form of social media to get validation from the masses on thoughts and feelings that were meant to be guarded and protected with the same alertness we would protect our most precious possessions.
We should be more concerned with praying and learning to be like Jesus than with what the public views us as.
I know you’re like, Mads, I also need to be up to date on current events, trends, and of course, know the exact bible verse to bring up when I need to sound holy. I’VE BEEN THERE. Especially in college, when you know everyone around you is probably smarter than you, has a better GPA, and is probably more involved…
Hate to break it to you, but that’s Satan. Satan feeds on those insecurities.
The Bible compares good words that are spoken at the right time, to “apples of gold in settings of silver (Prov 25:11).” oh my lanta! That is convicting… The value of a wisely chosen word is comparable to the most precious metal. God places such a high value on words, and sadly, it would seem as if we have lost sight of the worth and weight words carry. We don’t think twice about spewing out every thought that comes to mind, not considering the lasting impact our words have. The discipline of choosing and considering every word we utter has become as rare as the golden apple in the story!
Another way of looking at it, is that words are like seeds that we sow whenever we speak or write. You choose the seeds you are sowing. Apple seeds always bring forth apples. You can plant apple seeds, that will bring forth apples that are nourishing and bring health and healing. Or you can plant poison ivy seeds, that will bring forth, you guessed it, poison ivy that only hurts, harms, and gives a really unattractive rash.
Before you post, or before you go and have your weekly coffee date with your best friend ask yourself am I using good relational communication.
So, I asked a group of friends what they like when they are speaking with someone who reflects the image of Christ. The main three responses were…
WARMTH—conveying acceptance and courtesy. When you speak with warmth, you express, “You are important to me. You are valuable to me. I enjoy and respect you. I will not try to make you a carbon copy of myself, but rather I desire that you fully realize your own potential.”
side note, I think being a good listener has a lot to do with this.
GENUINENESS—having no hidden agendas. Genuineness says, “I am not trying to manipulate you, nor am I trying to bend you to my will. I want to make it safe for you to communicate with me and safe for you to trust that I will be truthful with you.”
side note number two, PLEASE BE YOURSELF. If you can’t be yourself with someone you have the wrong intentions in speaking with them.
EMPATHY—putting one’s self in the other’s circumstances—“walking in another’s shoes” Empathy says, “While I may not know exactly what you are going through, I’m trying to understand the emotions you feel and the challenges you face. I will seek to understand you, rather than trying to make you understand me.”
side note number three, recently I have been learning the lesson of ‘one-upping’ when you’re trying to empathize with someone it doesn’t have to be a competition in ‘who suffered worse’ or ‘who had a better day’ just be honest.
What it comes down to is it: words matter. Twitter, Facebook statuses, and even popular songs would love to tell you otherwise. But we should want to be a generation, amidst a world that devalues the significance of words, who allow the King to transform our minds, and every word we speak, shout, whisper, or sing proclaims the glory of Christ! May we be women whose words are drenched with the honor of Heaven, filled with the fragrance of Christ, and glistening with wisdom! May the branches in the orchard of our lives be full of the golden apples of life, truth, purity, and love. Let us be a generation of women who join the prayer of the old hymn: “Take my lips, and let them be, filled with messages from Thee.”
We are what we put into ourselves, and what we put in is what will come out…
Blonde moment: It’s like I first got my Brita water filter my friends and I had the bright idea that if we put lemonade into the filter, it would be filtered out to perfect water… That’s not what happened. We put lemonade in, so we got lemonade.. When we put in the word of God, time of prayer, and uplifting material that is what will flow out.
So before you listen to your favorite new rap song or binge watch your new favorite series as yourself how it influences you and the weight of your heart.
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.Proverbs 4:23